You have a new email from this guy on our dating website!
Every time I see those words I cross my fingers and remember that my e-dating profile provides me with great material to amuse my friends with even if that amusement is paired with utter disappointment that the single male population in my immediate area is clearly single for very obvious reasons.
The past few times that I've opened those emails, they've been one line and that one line goes something like this "hey sexy, what's up?" From 5 photos on my profile, which are in no way revealing, these gentlemen of various ages and ethnic backgrounds find it not only appropriate, but flattering to open the lines of communication with "hey sexy."
Now it's not that I'm offended, flattery is always in short supply and most certainly the sentiment is a welcome one. And it's not that the gentlemen are always unattractive to me, some of them are what I consider cute or handsome. But is that how they would approach me in a bar? Is that how they would address me if we met at a basketball game? If we met at some other venue than the internet? Probably not.
Not to mention that sexy is purely subjective, I personally find wit and intelligence more sexy in someways than physical appearance. If I find a man's mind sexy, it's easier to find the whole package sexier and the opposite is also true where he can be physically appealing but have the personality of a wet mop and then the whole thing is ruined.
It's totally a personal preference, but I like being called sexy in context. Whispering it in my ear when we enter a room and I'm made up and I feel sexy, or when we're in bed and in the midst of or done doing something sexy. But not as an opener, and not when I'm reading it in my pjs with bed hair or about to go teach, it's out of context and if they're older than my dad, it's just plain uncomfortable.
